Yurika Aoi your Japanese girlfriend

Behind closed doors, however, you will certainly know it if your Japanese girlfriend is upset about something. So don't think for a moment that Japanese women are weak and submissive. They can be very strong-willed. However, they DO expect you, as the man, to be the decision-maker in the relationship. This is one of the fundamentals of dating Japanese women.

Yuuka Motohashi Dealing with Japanese women

This attitude is different from what most Western guys have been conditioned to believe. They think they're being polite by always deferring to women and asking for their opinions on everything. "Are you free to hang out this weekend?" "What are you in the mood to eat tonight?" "What do you feel like doing?" Etc. When you're dealing with Japanese women, you've got lay out the plan. This is what she expects of the man in her life. So, when asking a Japanese girl out, be specific about the plans: the day of the week, the time, and the place where you want to bring her.

Yuuki Aikawa Practical People Woman

This will usually backfire with Japanese women. They are practical people. They want information that they can base their decision on. By trying to ask her out in that vague manner, all you're doing is confusing her. Are you suggesting that you want to meet her on Saturday, or Sunday? In the daytime or in the evening? Where do you want to take her? How should she prepare and should she dress casually, or formally?