This attitude is different from what most Western guys have been conditioned to believe. They think they're being polite by always deferring to women and asking for their opinions on everything. "Are you free to hang out this weekend?" "What are you in the mood to eat tonight?" "What do you feel like doing?" Etc. When you're dealing with Japanese women, you've got lay out the plan. This is what she expects of the man in her life. So, when asking a Japanese girl out, be specific about the plans: the day of the week, the time, and the place where you want to bring her.
